被人伤害了不说,是一种善良.被人诋毁了不说,是一种涵养

Bèi rén dǐ huǐ liǎo bù shuō, shì yī zhǒng hányǎng.
If someone commits slander towards you, keeping silent is a form of virtue.

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不是說,被人冤枉誤解了,絲毫不為自己解釋,但有些事情,無論你如何解釋也是枉然,反而會被他人認為是辯解。此時,不如選擇沉默,也無需怨天尤人,若你覺照反思後,有錯則改之,無則嘉勉。面對傷害,微笑是一種大度,被人詆毀,不理會是一種超凡。切記,別人的嘴我們無法去控制,但我們可以抱一顆淡然的心去看一切紛擾。

The Late Benjamin Franklin (The First American, one of the founding fathers of America) has a popular quote, “Silence is virtue”. In many Chinese proverbs that I follow, “silence” is something that I always seek to follow. On one great example of Chinese proverb that I constantly follow, silence is thought from experience.

Silence does not necessarily mean ignorance. It does not necessarily mean negligence, irresponsibility or oversight. Silence could also mean thoughtfulness, patience, control, respect and probably more than what you can imagine. Our lives are filled with multiple alterations of positives & negatives; filled with so much noise & distractions, everyday. But every time we confront a difficult situation, do we take a step back and look at the bigger picture?

Or do we impulsively make judgemental decisions that could possibly impact someone’s life negatively without us realising it? Take a step back today, and learn from what silence can teach us, just like how it has thought our ancestors for more than a millenia, now.

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