Uncertainty Is Your Best Friend, So Stop Panicking!

Remember all those times you feel unsure about yourself? When a new task lands on your desk and you’re not sure if you can do it. When you got pregnant and was not sure if you would be a good mother. Or when you fall in love and fear so much that you will get your heart broken. Or when you signed up for cooking classes and burned your hands and wonder if you would ever be able to graduate from making instant noodles?

Do those moments scare you?

I know for a fact that many people hate uncertainties. It gets people on the edge of their seats, and makes them panic.

Guess what? These are the same thoughts that we all have; even the great, successful people who we think have it all. Truth is, our lives are supposed to be an uncertain mess, and we aren’t supposed to have any clue why we are here. To be uncertain is OK.

Uncertainty is where all the fun is! If you knew everything that was going to happen already, wouldn’t life be so boring? Admit it, most people wouldn’t even watch the same movie twice because they’ve already know what will happen. Isn’t it the same with life?

The way to become best friends with uncertainty is to practice. The more you do it, the less you fear it. Every day, try and do something that is new, something uncomfortable. Maybe it’s hanging around people you don’t know, maybe it’s reading something that scares you, maybe it’s trying out a new adventure.

For me, I try talking to people from all walks of life. Coming from different industries and backgrounds could mean that sometimes we have no common interest at all. I sometimes risk sounding foolish; but it’s a practice that I ask of myself.

Sometimes, its travelling to places that I have never been to before. Cultures that I have never seen, and languages that I don’t understand—those are exciting, and they push me out of my comfort zone.

I think of it like this: corporates are trying to become like startups and disrupt themselves. This trend is something you can use in your life to reach the same outcome.

Listen to music you’ve never heard, watch a film with controversial messages if you’ve always watched things that are prim and proper, change the way you dress, travel the world, talk to someone who’s not your type, read a fiction book if you always read non- fiction, shake things up guys.

When you are not disrupting your life regularly, you get the opposite effect of uncertainty: certainty. That’s how most people end up being miserable with their lives. There is no new spark, nothing that excites you about life and the world.

We need a fair balance of certainty and uncertainty to make life good. If you feel stuck, uninspired and miserable, try it. Try something new, shake things up.

You will realise that life is so much more exciting that what you think it is.

“未知”不是敌人,而是最佳良伴!

还记得那些对自己感到不确定的日子吗?当新的工作来到你面前时,你总不确定自己是否能完成。就像你才刚怀孕,就开始担心自己是否能胜任母亲的角色。或是当你恋爱时,你总觉得这段感情的结局一定是心碎。又或是刚学烹饪的你,就因为一次失误烫伤了手,从此以后连快熟面也不敢动手煮了?

这些不确定的时刻,是不是让你感到特别不安?

我知道许多人极为厌恶“不确定”,因为他会使人焦虑不安。

我告诉你吧,在成功的人士也会有感到不安、不确定的时刻。但事实上,人生本来就充满着许多未知,就像为何我们会生而为人一样,毫无线索!

若你打开心胸,坦然面对的话,你会发现某些不确定、某些未知是一件很有趣的事情!试想想,若任何事情都预知了结果,那不是缺少了探索的乐趣吗?这也就是为何大多数人不会重复看一套电影两次,因为你已经知道结局了。看电影的道理,那不就跟人生很像吗?

与所有的未知当好友的不二方式只有多练习。你越能接受未知,你越不怕它。每一天,试着做一些你未曾尝试的东西,又或者那些曾让你感到不安的事情。例如尝试一个人到一个完全没有人认识你的地方逛逛,训练胆量。或是阅读你向来很怕的灵异小说……

对我而言,我喜欢结识不同领域与背景的人,或许有些人我从不感兴趣,当我依然会尝试与他们交谈,因为我认为人不可能把自己局限在一个舒适地带。

我也喜欢一个人独自到一个我从未到过的地方旅行。虽然彼此文化与语言有差异,但我却感到很兴奋,因为这些未知将我脱离舒适圈。

经商的道理也一样,当公司经营到一个规模时,你就要以创业的心态重新审视企业,看看企业还有什么发展的可能性,重燃雄心壮志。

聆听你从未听过的音乐、偶尔舍弃看一些总是大团圆结局的电影,而改看一些具有争议性的电影、不定时来个复转风格大改造、到更远的地方去旅行、跟一些你平时不会交谈的人聊天或是阅读一些你平时没有接触的书籍。

朋友,远离你的舒适圈吧!

当你每一天都让自己曝露在新的挑战中,你会发现自己正慢慢的远离那些对未知的焦虑与痛苦,你变得享受未知、爱上挑战。

在确定与未知之间拿捏一个平衡吧,当你开始感到生活一成不变时,就意味着你必须展开新生活了!

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