The Things Children Teach Me

I have had the privelege in the past to visit several orphanages, or children living with physical challenges. To many people, it might look like I am blessing these children by giving donation. To me, however, visiting these children is really more of a blessing to me. Every visit, I am reminded of how much more I can do for the society, and how lucky I am to be able to help others. More importantly, the smiles on the faces of these children never fails to warm my heart.

I thought it is appropriate for me to share some of the inspiration that these children have given me. They might not be lucky enough to have a family to care for them, but they sure know a thing or two about happiness and life. If you have never visited an orphanage, I urge you to do so. Perhaps you would be inspired and moved, just like I was.
Here are some of the things these children taught me:

Love is for all

Children love without boundaries. They help another up when they fall, they share their candies with someone who’s sad. When I visit the orphanages and give out gifts to the children, they never hesitate to share whatever they have with their friends. As little as these kids might have, they know the meaning of content, and they know that love and relationships mean much more than material goods. Don’t we adults have something to learn from these hearts of gold?

It takes very little to be happy

Grownups have high expectations from life. The more comfortable our lives become, the harder it is for us to feel impressed by the little things. In fact, many of us live in comfortable houses and drive fancy cars, yet still not feel happy. Children, on the other hand, are easily amused. A new song, a new game, some time out in the park or even something as simple as fried chicken can get their eyes to light up. When was the last time we felt happy over simple, everyday things as such?

Show emotions freely

I guess the Asian culture we grow up in has taught us that we cannot express our emotions. Even when we do show them, it has to be done in a contained, restricted way. Smile slightly, don’t laugh. Sad? Don’t show it for goodness sake. Children are not familiar yet with these restraints, and they show their emotions openly. If they feel happy, they laugh and clap. If they feel sad or scared, they cry. If they feel angry or annoyed, they sulk and make faces. Why do we spend so much effort measuring our emotional expressions and telling ourselves to restrain? Why can’t we be free with each other?

It’s okay to have fun

It’s okay to act silly once in a while. Singing along to a song on the radio is fun. Pulling a prank on your colleague is fun. Driving one hour just to have food you’re craving is fun. While it is important to be proffesional in your work and be responsbile in life, a little bit of fun once in a while hurts no one. In fact, it could add colours and joy to your life like never before. Observe a child having fun, and you would understand what I mean.

Do you have children at home? When was the last time you had fun or observed children having fun? If you are feeling stresed out, discouraged or disappointed with people, soend some time with children. Visit an orphanage. You could bring some happiness to them, and they would do magical things for your soul.

那些小孩教会我的事:无伪、真诚与快乐

我常有机会接触一些无父无母的孤儿或是一些面临身心障碍的小朋友,对许多人而言,孩子都从我这里受到恩惠,但在我看来,应该是我从孩子这里得到许多的启发!

每一次的探访后,我总告诉自己,我是很幸运的人,我身心健全,所以我要更加倍的回馈社会,帮助那些有需要的人。每一次看见孩子们真诚的笑容,我的心都会觉得很温暖。

所以,我想借此机会跟各位亲爱的读者分享这些年做慈善得到的一些心得,因为在这些孩子的身上,我看到了金钱也买不到东西,也就是纵使命运不好,但依然保持纯净与真诚!

若你从未到访孤儿院,我强烈建议你应该走一趟,相信我,你将会有满满的收获!

1.爱就是全部

孩子的爱是最单纯、最无杂质的。若你跌倒了,他们会扶你一把,若你难过了,他们会与你分享糖果。当我拜访孤儿院时,我发现孩子们很无私,他们都愿意将自己的所拥有的东西与同伴分享,纵使他所拥有的东西是很有限的。在他们身上,我看到比物质更为重要的东西,就是无私的爱!

2.快乐可以很简单

有一句话是这么说的,长大了,快乐也变得不纯粹,因为我们对人生的期待越来越也高,快乐也就越来越少。人活得越舒适,能让我们打从心底感到快乐的小事越来越少,因为只有开名车、赚大钱或住洋房才能让我们快乐。

但对孩子而言,快乐可以很简单,可能是一首歌、一个新游戏或是因为能吃到一块鸡腿就会觉得很快乐!问问你自己,你最后一次因为一个简单的事情那个人感到快乐是在什么时候?

3.真诚无伪

在一般的东方教育里,我们不能随便喜形于色,即使我们有时候不得不表现,依然得克制自己,不能过于放纵。

于是,我们将快乐悲伤都紧紧地压在心底,久而久之,我们都变变成戴面具的人。

但孩子却跟我们安全不同,快乐时候他们就笑、南难过时候他们就哭,完全不会掩饰自己。我也明白,在人际交往中,若过于放纵自己的表情与情绪不太好,但我认为克制还是有一个限度,每次交谈都是应酬交际不带真心,所以我们的社会才会越变越冷漠。

4.放轻松,做人快乐就好

有时候做一些很无厘头很无解的事情还蛮快乐的,跟着电台的音乐大声吟唱很快乐、跟同事开一个无伤大雅的玩笑很快乐、开一小时的车就为了你喜欢的食物很满足……工作时你徐亚一本正经、需要很专业,但下班刻就尽情地享受快乐时光吧!

人要懂得“work hard ,play hard”的道理,就像小孩一样,毫无拘束的玩乐,你会发现人生不再空乏,而是充满着乐趣!

你最后一次像个孩子一样大笑是在何时?若此刻的你感到很压力、很孤单或是对人感到很失望,不妨抽空到孤儿院走一趟,你会发现,孩子的笑容能洗涤你的心灵,因为他们用单纯无伪的真诚滋润了你!

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