Life Advice, by Dato’ Sri Jessy Lai

学会说话只要两年,懂得沉默却要五十年。 Xuéhuì shuōhuà zhǐyào liǎng nián, dǒngdé chénmò què yào wǔshí nián It takes 2 years to learn how to talk, but 50 years to learn how to keep quiet. 【沉默】 我們花了兩年學會說話,卻要花上六十年才懂得沉默 在這個眾生喧嘩的年代,大多數人都擁有一流的說話技術,“說”固然能提高溝通素質,但有時越說越多,反而造成彼此漸行漸遠。須知,有效的溝通在於讀懂人心,而不停的說話,往往卻變成不了解對方,結果矛盾加深。適時的沉默,才是攻占人心的關鍵。 This Chinese proverb is a classic issue we see going around us today – Many speak their mind but keep it closed. […]

Life Advice by Dato’ Sri Jessy Lai

什么事都不要急着辩解,什么话都不要忙着倾述。 Shénme shì dōu bùyào jízhuó biànjiě, shénme huà dōu bùyào mángzhe qīng shù Don’t rush into judging & telling the world about anything. 【自清】 什么事都不要急着辩解,什么话都不要忙着倾述 被人中傷時,不要急著為自己辯解,免得愈描愈黑。所以,是非与谣言止于智者,被冤枉就淡忘,被误解就善解,时间久了自然清者自清、浊者自浊,也就是日久见人心。 The word “冲动” perfectly explains this Chinese proverb. It means rushing into something without thinking much about it first. Something I intimately remember as this is a very […]

Life Advice, by Dato’ Sri Jessy Lai

做人如山,望万物而容万物; 做人似水,能进退而知进退。 Zuòrén rúshān, wàng wànwù ér róng wànwù; zuòrén sì shuǐ, néng jìntuì ér zhī jìntuì. As a person you need to be open like mountains and formless & flexible like water. 【能容】 山,予人之感覺是穩重、強大、屹立不倒並寬容的包容世間萬物,做事就應如山一樣,胸懷廣闊並腳踏實地,而水性柔兒能變形,海納百川,利萬物而不爭,碰到堅硬巨石而會繞道而行,遇到細小之物則會溫柔的包容。做人若如水,就能進退得宜,柔中帶刚,並有能容气度,故有俗語稱:做事如山,做人如水。 It’s hard to explain this Chinese proverb. In the first sentence, the Chinese proverb encourages people to be like mountains […]

Life Learnings, by Dato’ Sri Jessy Lai

人生的高度,不是你看清了多少事,而是你看轻了多少事。 Rénshēng de gāodù, bùshì nǐ kàn qīngle duōshǎo shì, ér shì nǐ kànqīngle duōshǎo shì. Living a good life is not about how much you experience, but how much you’re willing to let go. 【看輕】 人生不如意之事十之八九,生活哪能事事順心、凡事如意?能做的唯有莫執著,學會放下。放下不等於放棄,而是一種生活態度,莫執著不代表不認真,是一種隨緣的智慧!學會看輕,你會幸福,學會看淡,你會快樂。 Many people have the idea of experiencing everything in life before you die – And if you ask […]

Influence, by Dato’ Sri Jessy Lai

用生命影响生命。 Yòng shēngmìng yǐngxiǎng shēngmìng Use your life experiences to influence others’ lives 【影响】 对于“生命意义”,当代作家史铁生先生曾说过:“生命的价值在于以生命影响生命的过程。”若能将自身的人生经验与品德,通过一颗诚挚以及助人的大爱心态去传播,身体力行以自生命去影响另一个人的生命,让生命走入生命,那么,所有的不美好都有转变的可能性。 This classic Chinese proverb is the perfect example of what the Chinese culture teaches us when we were young – Lead by example. When I was young, both my parents use to tell me, “Yun, always remember to follow good […]