[vc_row type=”in_container” scene_position=”center” text_color=”dark” text_align=”left” overlay_strength=”0.3″][vc_column column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_position=”all” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ width=”1/2″][vc_column_text]The Art of Letting Go

The more I experience life and the busier I get, the more I understand the importance of letting go of things that do not matter. Certain people’s opinions do not matter. Certain events are not worth attending. Some arguments are not worth having, and there are some business ideas that are just not worth investing in.

In fact, I would say one of the most valuable lessons I learned throughout my career, is to have the pesistence to pursue what matters, the courage to say no to things that do not matter, and the wisdom to differentiate the two.

Why is this so important? In short, all of us has a limited amount of time and energy, and we have to pick and choose where we direct our energy to. The less you care about things that do not matter, the more energy you can channel into truly important things.

Nevertheless, I understand that differentiating what you should and should not care about can be difficult. For me, a general rule of thumb is to ask myself: what is the ultimate goal or purpose of my life, and how does this decision affect that?

When I was much younger, I waited patiently on the sidelines of life. I wanted to be liked and approved of, and often I was not sure of myself or my own judgment or things. That led me to ask for permission to do things—and if I have a great idea that was not well received, I would give up on that idea anyway. Now, I learned that if I want to take control of my life, I need to fully own myself. I owe no one anything except to be morally upright, honest and kind. I have stopped asking for permission, and ever since then I have a new found freedom to truly explore what I want in life. Remember, advice and opinions of others can be valuable, but you need to know who’s the true owner of your fate.

It has not been an easy journey. I believe almost everyone goes through that phase in life where others’ validation and liking means the world to us. It could be our family members’ opinions, our teachers and mentors, our bosses, the shareholders of your company, and even the public. To different extents, at some point we all need to be “liked” by others. We work so hard to please people, even when they don’t matter.

A few years back when I was faced with huge adversity in my career, I learned that “being liked” is hardly as important as doing the right thing. These days I choose to be involved in a lot of charity work precisely because of this realisation. Some might say that I’m foolish, because charity and social responsibility doesn’t make money. Yet I have learned that making money alone is not fulfilling, unless I know that the money is going to a good cause. This is the art of knowing to let go—giving up things that don’t matter for those that do.

What are some things that you need to let go off? Are you being overly dependent on the validation of others? As usual, comments are welcome! I would love to chat. [/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_position=”all” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ width=”1/2″][vc_column_text]学会选择,懂得放下

当人生经历的越多,我越明白“放下”的重要性。从前的自己,因为人生经验浅薄,总是不懂得拿捏“收与放”之间的尺度,总是很在意他人的想法,为了做到别人眼中最完美的自己,拼命的去完成所有的任务,哪怕自己撑得很幸苦……

但随着年纪渐长,一路走来,经历了许多的关卡,终于领悟,有些人有些事,真的不值得一提,不值得你牢记于心。

是的。

有一些人的意见真的是不重要,不用放在心上;有些人真的不这么重要,不需要勉强自己去迎合;有一些争执没有价值,根本不需要浪费心力去在意;有一些所谓的商机,根本就不值得为了怕给人抢先机而争得头破血流。

事实上,我想说的是,我从我的工作中学到一个宝贵的经验,那就是对于对正确的事情坚持到底的,对不重要的事情说不的道理,而对与错的差别,就得靠你的智慧来分辨。

为何我强调收与放是很重要?简单而言,那就是人的时间与体力总是有限,我们必须筛选我们有能力承担的事情来做。

若我们高估自己的能力,什么事情都揽上身,那将大大的削减我们处理重要事情的力气。

或许你会问,要如何区分重要与不重要呢?对我而言,在做决定时,我常会问自己:什么才是你人生的最终的目标?做了这个决定后会带来什么影响?

当我还很年轻时,我经常会为了得到了别人的认同与喜欢而对自己的判断力以及决定感到犹豫。例如,若我有很棒的企划时,我经常会质疑我的想法是否会得到他人的认可,每当想到这里,我会自动放弃自己的想法。

经过多年的职场训练后,我成长了、蜕变了。

我不再事事在乎别人怎么看我,我是自己生命的主人,我有绝对的权利来决定自己的人生。请记得,

别人的意见与劝告固然重要,但最终你还是必须跟随自己的想法做事。

要做到“跟随自己心声走”并不是一件简单的事,对于年轻时的我们而言,别人的目光与喜好是全世界,这些意见可以是来自家人、老师好友、老板、工作伙伴甚至是社会大众。为了取悦他人,有时我们很身不由己,哪怕你的取悦对他人而言不痛不痒。

过去几年,我走过事业的逆境,终于领悟与其汲汲营营得到认同,还不如省下力气去做一些正确的事更为重要。

于是,我开始接触慈善行业。

当然,我也遇过一些人嘲笑我愚昧,因为慈善以及社会责任不赚钱。对于这些人的意见,从前的自己或许会很介怀,但对现在的我而言,至少我知道我的钱帮助了不少有需要的人,这样就足够了。

这就是我一直强调的“放下”——放下一些不痛不痒、不重要的事情,人会活得比较快乐。

对你而言,什么才是最重要的?你是不是还很介怀别人对你的看法?欢迎你到我的文章下方留言与我分享你的想法![/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

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