Full time mum vs career women:easier said than done!全职妈妈vs职业妇女

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Many years ago, a poll revealed that the most unwelcomed Mothers’ Day gift is none other than cooking pots. Women who were polled said that pots as a gift sends a not so subtle message that they are expected to cook and care for the household, even after a full day of work. In an age where women have unprecedented access to the workplace, we now have a new problem: the society expects career women to still fulfil the role of housewives.

When travelling abroad, I even came across a signboard in London that said: “Career women make bad mothers”.

Do not interpret this the wrong way—this is not a message to shame career women. Is it a call to highlight the plight of those who have to juggle both career and family. The lack of support at the workplace (nursery, flexible working hours, work from home options, etc.) and the lack of expectation towards men to help out at home weighs down heavily on the shoulders of modern day women.

Another research in Taiwan established the link between work stress and an increased risk of heart diseases, insomnia and high blood pressure. These risks affect women more than they affect men.

Full time mothers do not have it easy as well.

Many women choose to give up high-paying jobs and career prospects so that they can devote full attention to their children. They are then expected to take care of everything at home, from cooking to cleaning to teaching and nurturing. They are not paid, enjoy no leave or bonuses, and hardly have any time for themselves. It is one of the most demanding jobs in the world, yet very under-appreciated.

The constant stress of juggling both ends can lead to great distress for career mums. Anxiety, frustration, depression, sleeplessness and low self-esteem are common problems.

My point is: society hardly empathises enough with career mums and show very little appreciation to them.

As a career woman myself, I fully understand the difficulties of juggling career and family. Even if one chooses to prioritise her children, there will be times where work comes in the way and you would be forced to pick a side. In these times, we do everything we can to ensure that our children understand how much we love them. Maintaining the balance between work and family has always been a priority for me.

Today I want to show my full appreciation for both career mums and full time mums. You are all admirable individuals that society cannot do without. May the world show you more appreciation, not just in words but also in action.

It is Mothers’ Day this Sunday, and I wish all mothers a wonderful celebration! Thank you very much for giving selflessly to the world.

If you have something to say about the special woman in your life, please comment below or on my Facebook page! I would love to hear your stories.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_position=”all” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ width=”1/2″][vc_column_text]全职妈妈vs职业妇女,谈何容易?

多年前,我曾在报章看过一项有趣的调查,女性在母亲节里最不想受到的礼物竟然是“锅子”,因为“锅子”代表“做饭”,意味着下班后,妈妈们要赶紧回家煮饭与照料丈夫孩子,职场家庭来回奔波完全是职业妇女内心的梦魇!

英国伦敦曾在街头架上一个巨型的广告牌,上面写着:职业妇女不是好妈妈(career women make bad mother’)。

各位,千万别错误诠释这个讯息,这个广告主要表达的是职业妇女内心最深的恐惧——工作家庭两头烧,强调职业妇女内心的无奈与幸苦。

而职业妇女的无奈来自于另一半在家务以及亲职上的后援不足,让职业妇女疲于应付家庭与职业。

台湾《康健》杂志曾发表过一篇健康品质的调查显示,压力对22.7%职业妇女的影响更大于12%的男性。

职业妇女的健康因此受到巨大的威胁,罹患心脏病、健忘症、失眠或是高血压的几率非常高。

各位也别忽视全职妈妈所承受的压力。

许多全职妈妈在有小孩前,或许都拥有一份高薪或是前景良好的工作,但因不想错过孩子的成长期,最终选择放弃成就感,回归家庭。

而回归家庭后的全职妈妈,包办了家中的大小事情、照顾家人的起居饮食以及健康,没有假日、没有病假、没有喘息与抒发压力的空间,更甚者还要承受源于没有经济能力而产生的低价值观。

这样日复一日的循环下,导致全职妈妈产生巨大的情绪反应,例如焦虑、易怒、抑郁症、失眠、沮丧,甚至是没有价值感与负面的自我观感。

说了那么多,我想表达的是,我们的社会在很大层面上是不理解母亲的苦况。

因为自己本身也是一位职业妇女,非常能体会职业家庭两头烧的压力,但职业妇女就算凡事以孩子为重,但总有临时的工作与孩子重要时刻重叠的时候,对于工作与孩子的优先顺序,一定会让孩子们知道自己的标准,也让孩子们理解自己在妈妈心目中永远是最重要的,对于家庭与事业我也一直都尽最大的努力维持两者之间的平衡。

但成就再大的妈妈,心中牵挂的始终都是怀胎十月的孩子,无论是是为了家庭经济,在职场家里两头烧的职业妇女,还是在家照顾小孩的全职妈妈,为了孩子,她们往往都愿意做出最大的牺牲以及退让。

无论是职业妇女或是全职妈妈,都是值得褒扬,为人孩子或另一半除了在口头上赞许母亲的牺牲之外,更应在行动上表现体贴,多体谅母亲的幸苦。

这星期天就是母亲节了,我想对全天下的母亲说声母亲节快乐!谢谢你们为家庭无私的付出与牺牲,幸苦妳们了!

各位,若你心中也有满满的话想对母亲说,不放在我的文章下方留言,说出你想对母亲说的话,又或者到我的脸书上留言,表达你对母亲的爱。

别吝啬表达对母亲的爱,爱要及时!

资料来源:

http://www.theguardian.com/media/2010/jan/06/outdoor-advertising-career-women-billboards

http://news.sinchew.com.my/node/207361

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