Be Slow to Judge别过于主观,用智慧判断事情!

赖彩云 Jessy Lai Chai Yun-judge

Be Slow to Judge

I am always on the lookout for talent. Not just people with skills or good business sense, but more importantly I am always looking for people with great leadership qualities, because these people are a great asset to any company. One of the key features that I appreciate in a leader is decisiveness. The wisdom to quickly assess any situation, make judgments and propose a solution.

1. We Usually Don’t Know the Whole Story

How many times have you seen people who jump to conclusion without learning all the facts? How many people make abusive comments and inaccurate conclusions based on just the title of news articles, and not the whole report?

Don’t get me wrong. I respect everyone’s freedom to express their opinion; but I do believe with that freedom come with a certain amount of responsibility.

When we judge, do we know all the relevant details? Do we know why the people involved did what they did?

Judging on incomplete information is counterproductive—and sometimes can be very harmful. Before we make a move, we should make certain we have enough information. If circumstances force us to move without all the details, we should be humble, open to correction, and ready to change our opinion.

2. Our Judgements are Often Coloured by Our Own Issues

We all have our own issues, mistakes and insecurities in life. Because we’re so familiar with our own issues, we tend to notice them everywhere we turn, even—especially—in others. Sometimes, even when said issue does not exist in a situation, we assume it does.

For example, a person who constantly lies might be paranoid and think that everyone else is also just as capable of lying as he is.

When we don’t have the full story, we sometimes assume that others have the same problem as we do. It’s unconscious, but it means we’ve assigned motives and condemned someone when we are really just imagining things. The only way to stop this is to be aware that it may happen, and be very careful about it.

3. We Usually Regret It Later

When we realise that we have misunderstood someone, regret comes next. This is especially true if the person we misunderstood is someone we love, and that misunderstanding has caused tension in our relationship. Apologies can sometimes remedy the situation, but it might not work all the time.

In social media, there is less personal relationship involved. During this Olympics season, for example. Everyone in the world can freely tweet and criticise any athlete they want, without worrying too much about repercussions. That doesn’t mean that it is more OK to misjudge. The harsh criticism against athletes can amount to cyber-bullying, or gossips can damage the reputation of a person.

It also speaks badly of ourselves. When we continuously make inaccurate judgments of people, it reflects poorly on us too.

Life and death are in the power of the tongue, a wise man once said. This is a quote I hold dearly, as I also need to remind myself to never judge too quickly. Let’s use our words wisely.

别过于主观,用智慧判断事情!

这么多年以来,我不停的追寻着人才,不仅仅是永远有敏锐的商业嗅觉,更拥有卓越的领导能力,因为我向来认为,一流的领导人会是一家公司最佳的资产。而我最欣赏领导人拥有果断的决策能力,因为果断的领导者能迅速适应任何坏境、判断情势以及找出解决方案。

但有时太快做出决定也未必是一件好事,尤其是在做出评断,若错误判断情势将会伤害无辜的人。

我也曾犯下这样的错误,幸运的是,我从错误中获得教训,并及时作出补救。至此之后,我在做决策时更是谨慎。

1.很多时候,我们并不知道事情的全部

相信你也曾遇过一些特别喜欢跳过过程,直接进入结论的人,通常这些人都是依据一些片面的资讯而下了有待商榷的结论。

别误会,我绝对尊重每个人都有其发表意见的权利与自由,只是我更相信所谓的自由更需要伴随着某程度上的责任。

当我们在进行判断时,你是否知道所有相关的资料?你知道牵涉其中的人的角色吗?

任意下决定不是一件好事,我们必须确保在还未下任何决定前先做好充分的准备,若没有详尽的资料,那我们就必须更谦虚并乐意接受任何意见以及改变。

2.判断事情时总带着个人想法

每个人都有自己的人生问题或是特别没有安全感的事情,例如,一个爱说谎的人通常都有偏执倾向,会认为所有的人都各奔他一样具有说谎的能力。

在不了解事情的真相前,我们总会假设他人也跟自己一样拥有相同的问题,或许是无意识的,但这或许会成为你攻击他人的把柄。

3.悔不当初

当我们发现误会他人后,羞愧就会找上门,尤其是当我们误会了我们最爱的人而导致彼此的关系陷入僵局。一句道歉有时能挽回一切,但更多时候却不能亡羊补牢。

在社交媒体上时代里,任何人都拥有发言权,例如本届里约奥运会,许多人在推特上批评运动员的表现,而且从未担心这些评论会带来怎样的后果。他们并未意识过分的评论已经涉及网络霸凌,而这些流言蜚语绝对能摧毁一个人的信誉!
恶质的评论不仅对他人带来影响,实际上对自身也不是一件好事。

有一句话如此说道:“语言暴力是无形的伤害,你的一句话能决定一个人的生死”,我非常认同,以致我时常鞭策自己在判断任何事情上决不能过于主观!

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