Are you happy with your life now?问问自己,你满意现在的人生吗?

赖彩云 Jessy Lai Chai Yun-Are_You_Happy

Are you happy with you life now?

Every morning, you wake up feeling stressed out, every muscle in your body tense from the workload you have, and you find it hard to breathe. You get to work, you come back home exhausted, fall asleep, and repeat the routine the next day.

How long have you been doing this? Have you ever asked yourself if you are happy with your life?

There is no second chance to living a life. Every second gone is time that can never be recovered. In other words, we need to appreciate very second that we have, and not waste time on things that you hate.

If I were to remind you that you have only one life to live—what kind of life do you want?

This question is to help you discover and think about the real “purpose in life”. Only when you have understood that, can you live a life with no regrets.

I also believe that life goals are often built around success, business, making money, or becoming famous. But are these really what you want?

Here are some ways you can inspect your life. I suggest you try them out, and see if you are really living your optimal life.

1.Find your true wishes in the subconscious

If you are jealous of a wealthy lifestyle and therefore made it a life goal, then that is not your real wish.
To find out what you really want, use the time before sleeping and the time you just woke up. The things that linger in your mind during these times are usually your heart’s deepest desires.

2.Do not sacrifice too much

if achieving your goals meant sacrificing things that really matter to you, then you won’t be truly happy.
For example, you appreciate your family and you want them to live a comfortable life. Therefore you work very hard to make lots of money. Yet because of this, you can’t spend time with your loved ones. In the end, you win fame and fortune, but lose out on happiness.

3.Make a checklist

Write down your problems on paper to help you get a clearer view. Maybe this can help you understand a few things:

– what is the one thing that you are most unhappy with or wish you could change?
– What are you happy with and want to have more of?
– If you have no financial constraints, what would you want to do
– What are the things you genuinely enjoy doing?
– If there is no chance of failing, what would you want to do?
– If you can choose a life that you want, which would you choose?
– Please list your strengths and weaknesses

4.What would you do with your time?

-If you know the date of your death, what would you do?
– If you have only one year left, what would you do?
– if you have three years left, what would you do?
– if you have ten years left, what would you do?

The answer to the first question is the real core of what you want. As the years get longer, your wishes expand to include more things.

For example, if you have 1 year left, you might want to spend time with your kids. If you have more time left, you might consider what you can do for other children. If you have 10 years, you might even want to start up an organisation to help children in need.

We have only one chance in life. Nothing is more important than being the owner of your own life and walking your own path. Don’t you think so?

问问自己,你满意现在的人生吗?

每天起床,你就必须为忙得让你喘不过气来的工作而忙碌,沉重的工作负担压得你精神紧绷。

这样日复一日的日子,你可曾问过自己:你满意这样的生活吗?

有一句话说得很好:“人生是一列永不回头的火车”,言简意骇,说明了生命不能重来的道理,我们该做的就是珍惜我们所拥有的每分每秒,别将时间浪费在那些你自己都不满意的事情上。

若我现在问你,人生只有一次,你想成为怎样的自己?

这个问题的目的,是为了让你有机会去探索、正视自己从未发现过的“真正人生目标”,唯有发现以及掌握了,你的人生才算是没有遗憾。

我也相信,许多人的人生目标脱离不了“成功”、“创大业”、“赚很多钱”、“成为知名人物”,这些东西真的是你想要的?

东尼‧野中在《做讨厌的事,永远不可能成功》一书中,提供了一个检视自己人生目标的方式,而我建议你在做了这个检视后,问问自己,若你真的拥有了这些东西,是否意味着下一秒马上死去,你也不觉得遗憾、绝不后悔?若答案是话,恭喜你,你发现了自己真正的人生目标!

1. 让“潜意识”帮你找到真正的愿望

如果只是看到成功的人可以吃美食、住豪宅而心生羡慕,将这做为目标,并不是你真正的愿望。
为了要找出潜意识中的渴望,掌握就寝及刚睡醒的黄金时间。这段期间在脑海中浮现的“感到开心的事物”、“想起来让人感到轻飘飘的事物”、“会不自觉感到幸福的事物”正是你潜意识中的深层渴望,不妨照着这个方向努力。

2. 真正的目标,不需要过度的牺牲

就算实现了梦想或目标,如果目标中包含“无法忍受的事情”,就无法真正感到幸福。
举例来说,你非常珍惜家人,希望家人能过上好日子,因此全心全意工作,希望赚更多的钱,却因为必须一直工作,无法好好陪伴家人。你有钱又有名,但无法获得终极幸福。

3. 进行人生盘点,帮助你更了解自己

将问题写在纸上,藉由询问内心,找出符合自己的人生终点。这几个问题,或许可以帮助你更了解自己:

• 回顾自己的人生,你现在最不满足的事物为何?或者是你想要改变什么事情?
• 你现在对什么事物感到满足?或者是想要增加更多什么?
• 如果你完全没有金钱烦恼的话,你想要做些什么事?
• 你平常真心感到开心而会动手做的事情为何?不是为了他人或金钱,只是因为开心而做的事情是?
• 如果有绝对不会失败的保证,你最想要尝试什么?
• 如果你可以过着如你所愿的人生,你想要选择怎样的人生?
• 请举出你自己的优点及缺点

4. 你会用剩下的时间做什么?

当你知道了自己的死期后,会做些什么?问自己这三个问题,导引出真正想做的事。

• 如果医生宣告你只剩下一年生命,你会做些什么?
• 如果医生宣告你只剩下三年生命,你会做些什么?
• 如果医生宣告你只剩下十年生命,你会做些什么?

剩下一年的日子时,“无论如何都想做的事情”可以导引出你真正想追求的事物。当时间变成三年、或十年后,能做的事情范围会稍微扩大。

举例来说,当剩下一年时,希望“一直陪在孩子身边”的人,有了三年的时间,可能会思考除了自己的孩子,是否也能为其他孩子做些什么?然后浮现“到各地的学校去举办教导大家健康知识活动”等想法。时间扩大至十年,甚至可以到开发中国家为没有机会接受教育的孩子们兴建学校、或拯救与饥饿及疾病战斗的孩子们,愿望的层次会进一步地提高。

亲爱的,人生只有一次机会,没有什么东西会比做自己生命的主人、做自己真正喜欢的事来的重要了,若人生走在正确道路上,那就没有所谓的后悔,你认同吗?

文章参考http://www.managertoday.com.tw/books/view/52945

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