9 Things Time has Taught Me 岁月教会我的九件事

赖彩云 Jessy Lai Chai Yun-time

9 Things Time has Taught Me

The world was much simpler when we were younger. The laws and giving and receiving were simple: as long as you put in hard work, you will be duly rewarded. We thought that if were kind to people, then they would be kind in return. We thought if we held on to something, then it would stay with us forever. Our wrong assumptions about the world blinded us to the reality, and of course, we end up making mistakes, stumbling and falling along the way.

Eventually we learned. We experienced many things in life that forced us to grow and mature, and while we still feel the same joys and sorrows, we respond much differently from how we used to. The baptism of time made us someone different from who we used to be.

As I look back, I realised that one lesson time has taught me is to be strong. To care less about things that do not matter, and to look at the world with trained eyes. These are lessons that money can’t buy. You can only learn them by honestly living life.

I would summarise my lessons to a few pointers. This is partly to remind myself of life’s precious lessons, and also in hopes that you can benefit from them.

1.Let go: of things that do not matter. Do not waste time on matters that do not add value to your life.

2.Be gracious: try to understand the people around you with a forgiving heart

3.Love yourself: learn to take care of yourself, do not hang your happiness on financial wealth

4.Have direction: Know where you’re headed in life. Be it good times or bad times, learn to accept and adapt

5.Mature: Maturity does not come with age, rather your ability to take on responsibilities

6.Be in touch with the world: Don’t be cold and reclusive. Be forgiving and accepting of things around us, and try to do what you can for those in need.

7.Accept the reality: it may not be pretty, but there’s always beauty in humanity if you look in the right places

8.Be forgiving: there is no need to force yourself to accept things you hate, but there is also no need to spend energy going strongly against it. Live and let live.

9.Attitude: it decides your altitude. Your thoughts can change everything.

There is a very intriguing quote: “If you are afraid of the dark, turn on the lights. If you miss someone, contact them. Anything great today becomes something small tomorrow. A great event today becomes history the next year. And in the end, we are all but people with some stories to tell. Thus, life is much like daffodils—we look like we are free, but really many things are not in our control. It is not that we do not care, but rather we know caring sometimes doesn’t change a thing. As long as we have done our best, we can live bravely with no regrets.”
Stop thinking about “what if’s”. Instead of imagining what could have been, why don’t we start taking actions to make things possible.

Famous Taiwanese designer Peter Su once said that there are 4 things that we should insist on in life:

1.Do not bring your worries to bed, for that is a place to sleep
2.Do not bring your hatred to the next day, for that is a beautiful day
3.Do not spread your sadness to others, for that is irresponsible
4.Do not show your negative emotions, for that makes you unlikeable

岁月教会我的九件事

当我们还很小的时候,我们总是搞不清楚这个世界的定律,以为只要我们付出了全部就一定有回报;以为对别人好,别人一定也会善待你;以为你大度不计较,别人也会以相同的方式对待你;以为抓紧就会是永远……以为,总让我们跌得遍体鳞伤、更不懂得释怀心中的感伤。

只是后来的我们都经历了人生的种种过程,渐渐明白这个世界给你上了一堂精彩的人生课。或许,你的快乐你的难过依然存在,只是你变了,你不在是当年的自己。

回头看看,岁月教会了我们最重要的事就是坚强,要我们凡事看开一点,那么在面对磨难时,我们会明白,磨难时短暂的·,只要我们有坚持下去,苦难将会被驱赶。

岁月教会我的事,是金钱也买不到真谛,那是年积月累的经验,是以生命去感受所有的失败与失意后甜美的果实。

有经历的人,一定能明白以下几点,若你看得透、读得懂,恭喜你,你不会因此而变得富有,但它却能为你赚来智慧。

1.放下:丢弃不重要的人事物,不执着于浪费生命的事物。

2.不卑不亢:以包容的心,去理解你身边的人。

3.爱自己:学会照顾自己、爱惜自己,不将生活的寄托放在外在的虚华。

4.方向:一定要找到自己的人生方向,无论成就是高或低,都要学会接受一切。

5.成熟:成熟,指涉的不是年龄的增长,而是你的心智以及负责任的态度。

6.宽待世界:不要做一个自私与冷漠的人。请宽容的对待我们身边的人事物,尽一己之力去帮助其他有需要的人。

7.接受现实:接受现实总是不完美,担不是要你越变越现实,以致忘记人性的美好。

8.包容:对于不喜欢的人,不用勉强自己去迎合,也不用激烈的对抗,学会接纳所有自己不喜欢的人事物。

9.心态:心态决定成败,一念之差可以改变许多结局。

有一句很有意思:“怕黑就开灯,想念就联系。今天再大的事,到了明天就是小事;今年再大的事,到了明年就是故事。我们最多也就是个有故事的人,所以,人生就像蒲公英,看似自由,却身不由己。有些事,不是不在意,而是在意了又能怎样。自己尽力了就好,人生没有如果,只有后果和结果。“
不要一直想着“如果我的人生如何如何”,与其浪费时间在想象,倒不如采取行动,行动了,一切才有可能。

台湾著名新生辈设计师兼作家Peter Su曾经说过四点必须坚持的事情,与大家共勉之:

1、不要把烦恼带到床上,因为那是一个睡觉的地方。
2、不要把怨恨带到明天,因为那是一个美好的日子。
3、不要把忧郁传染给别人,因为那是一种不道德的行为。
4、不要把不良的情绪挂在脸上,因为那是一种令人讨厌的表情。

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